“X” is the universal symbol, or sign, for something that is undefined. Designers are in the business of turning x into X. They create meaning through metaphor and fiction, assigning character, depth, and emotion to otherwise neutral materials.
In relationships, we have a habit of assigning meaning to otherwise neutral events. We convince ourselves that coincidences have significance and allow them to influence our behaviour. Our brains are wired to see these connections, so it’s easy to forget that we choose the meaning of what happens to us. “X” can be whatever we want it to be. Every moment is an opportunity to craft the story of our ideal relationship.