Opposability is the ability to resist or oppose. It refers to a productive tension on two or more points, paradoxically making room for increased flexibility. A great designer has often developed an “opposable mind,” able to “hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” –Author Roger Martin (“The Opposable Mind”)
The courageous lover might also seek to develop an opposable heart, able to hold conflicting emotions in its chambers. An opposable heart could hold both the sorrows of heartbreak and the belief in love, acknowledging the possibility of a perfect love that is also full of flaws.
To be comfortable in the tension of opposability is to love, and to design loveable things.